At times you will feel discouraged and wonder about your abilities, but the important thing to remember is that you ARE doing good for the child, even if he or she doesn't realize it. Providing a stable home is better than leaving him in an orphanage. Remember that you ARE a good parent, even if there are disagreements between you and your foster child sometimes. Remember that it doesn't matter if she appreciates you for it or not, later in life she will realize what you did and be grateful for how you helped. It can be hard to want to stay in the program when you run into problems. But try to stay focused and remember that you did this to help a child. And you are helping him, regardless of if he recognizes it right now or not. It can be difficult to build a good solid relationship, and that's okay. Don't expect yourself to be perfect. Just try the best you can to reach out and befriend your foster child and be her friend. Be a role model and supportive adviser. Think of yourself as the fun aunt or uncle--there to support the child, but not trying to fill the "mom" or "dad" role. Remember that your foster child comes from a hard place and just needs someone to care for and support them.
It's okay to feel discouraged and down on yourself as you are on this endeavor. Just try to remember that it is worth it. Everything will be okay. You can ask for help if you need it, and that's okay. You can do this. You are doing a great service, and we truly appreciate your sacrifice. Thank you. Keep a smile on your face. Everything will be okay :) You're doing a great job.
I really appreciate this post! I think three quarters of it need to be chanted by parents everyday...Note to self: "it's okay...it is worth it...you are doing a great job". Thanks!
ReplyDeleteI like that you recognize that the child might not always show a lot of appreciation.. I agree that it's important to keep in mind that what foster parents are doing is amazing, and not to get discouraged!
ReplyDeleteI love this post! It gives a lot of confidence to foster parents even when times get hard. I also like how you said that its ok to feel discourage at times, but to always remember that what they are doing it's worth it. Jessica.
ReplyDeleteI think this post came from a good point of view. Thanks for providing support for foster parents!
ReplyDeleteI really like the great positive approach you give to being a foster parent. The only thing anyone can really ask is for a person to do their best and the qualities that you shared really can help people do that. I know that parents that do put in the effort will see results even though it may be years down the road.
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